COME ON OUT OF YOUR CLOSET OF CLOTHES AND WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF SOCIAL NUDITY!
Introduction:
My primary purpose in featuring this particular column as a part of this blog is to offer some basic information to those thinking about joining our culture of nakedness. It's secondary reason is to offer guidance and support to those men who are relatively new to social nudism. A form of online resource on the culture and customs of our queer naturist world.
Nude Novice Notes is by no means is intended to be the final authority on gay social nudity. To be honest, I don't believe there is one source for that: our community is too diverse and traditions vary from group to group, region to region and country to country. It simply is a guide as men negotiate their way into our world.
When I learned that a brother blogger,
Pimusique, had made the decision to explore our same gender loving nude culture, I thought: this is an excellent opportunity to share with men considering our lifestyle and those men who are novices in our lifestyle the thoughts and background of another queer man who's doing the same. An effort to "each one, reach one, teach one." An experience to show by example rather than thoughts and advice. A sort of "hands on" lesson reality lesson through cyberspace, if you will. We all know, and it is proven educational strategy, that people learn best from those they perceive as similar to themselves. Who better to serve as a role model for new nudes than one himself? As an African-American blogger, there's no better time to publish his story than February, which is Black History Month.
I hope that my fellow blogger and naked comrade will share more with us here as he embarks on his nude journey. One benefit from working with him over this past month has been the beginning of a friendship that hopefully will last a lifetime.
Pimusique's blog is featured in My Blog List here. I urge you to visit it, if you haven't already done so. Now, sit back and enjoy the interview with
Pimusique.
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A Fellow Blogger Begins A Nude Journey:
One of the blogs that I've followed and promoted in My Blog List here at DQN In Northern Virginia is the recently revamped Pimusique (formerly: From The Desk Of Pimusique). I've enjoyed the content and perspective offered on this site for several years now and I'm particularly excited as to the new direction the author, Pimusique, is taking his publication in 2012. In a recent post, he shared some personal adventures that he's undergoing in this new year. One of these, exploring gay social nudity, appealed to me as something that would be of interest in addressing here at DQN In Northern Virginia. I contacted him regarding an interview and he graciously agreed to discuss his thoughts.
Thank you for consenting to do this interview. It's an honor. Would you like to introduce yourself?
First, let me say that it is a joy, an honor to make your acquaintance. When you contacted me to do this interview, I gave you a quick "Yes sir!" Because to be tapped to have such an opportunity is just outstanding.
My name is Thaddeus Lonzie Works. I was born in Camilla, Georgia, and raised in Albany, Georgia, about three hours south of Atlanta. I came to Atlanta in May, 1985, and that was when my gay sleeping giant was awakened.
What inspired you to write a blog?
There was this blog that I used to read faithfully; one day he posted something and I commented. He asked me if I had ever considered writing my own blog. A year passed and one night I gave it a trial run and I could not stop writing about my life: where I had been, what I have done and my sexual adventures.
You are very frank and open in your writing/blog. Are you that real in person?
LOL! I have always spoken the truth or what I have felt at that moment, not disrespecting anyone. When I am asked, "What do you think?" my answer may piss someone off, but, they will say, "He told me not what I wanted to hear but what I needed to hear...the truth!" I really think that I talk too much concerning my personal life but by me doing so it may help someone to find a release in their lives. I help to make them an individual with a strong amount of respect from others.
The recent renovation of your blog, From The Desk Of Pimusique to the new Pimusique, is refreshing. Is this part of a New Year resolution? Any special reason for the evolution?
That came from a conversation back in early December. I was at a dinner and the host was talking about early retirement and a healthier lifestyle. He looked over at me and said: "Thaddeus...I'm going to re-invent myself for the next year." On my way home I kept hearing "re-invent myself." When I got home I was full of thoughts of re-inventing myself to where I will really let my readers into the deep, deep, deep secrets of my life. Secrets where others will never reveal about themselves and what they wanna do or have done. I had to kill off the "old man" (From The Desk Of...) and give a "new life" to the new (Pimusique). He is going to give it to you raw and uncut with no chaser.
Pimusique is written from the perspective of a proud gay African-American man. At what age did you acknowledge your sexuality? Are you open/out to your family?
I am open with my family. I did not tap into my openly sexual being until about ten years ago. I have always had this sexual power within me since my teen years. There was a power that would come over me when I just wanted to be down and dirty sexually with someone and I would leave them overly satisfied and myself drained for hours. But that would only happen with a random piece of ass.
Pimusique: Thaddeus L. Works
In an update to your blog, Pimusique, post on Saturday, January 7, 2012, you wrote: "I have been informed and now I have some interest in the nudist scene as well. I strongly think that I am leaning toward the nudist because as you already know I sleep nude, I do not wear underwear and when I am home I walk around nude." As a queer naturist/nudist, this amended information intrigued me and I'd like to discuss this with you. I know this topic is of interest to the gay nudist readers at DQN In Northern Virginia. It isn't too often that we meet someone who is so honest and public about their desire to experiment with same gender loving social nudity.
How long have you been a home nudist? What made you decide to start being nude at home?
This happened when I was about 17 years old. I would always sleep naked and walk around my bedroom naked. I would come in from anywhere and just had to get out of all my clothes. I think this goes back to when I was a toddler. Little boys love to run around naked. You have to chase them down before and after a bath to cover them up because they will run outside like that.
Any embarrassing moments being caught naked in your home?
LOL! This question takes me back again to when I was 17 years old and I was sleeping naked. My mother heard a noise in the house one night and so she went on patrol checking all the rooms. The next morning at breakfast she asked my brother and me did we hear something fall during the night. I laughed and said: "No one is going to come up in here." She said: "After I checked your room, I knew no one had come in because when I opened your door all I saw was your ass in the air."
As you know, most of us are raised in a home environment that isn't very "nudist friendly." We are taught by our family, church, society, etc., that nude is lewd. It's something to be ashamed of and dirty. We're told that "good, decent people don't go around naked." This is especially true in the United States where many of us learn at an early age that "modesty is the best policy." As a result of this puritan way of thinking, many of us grow up with a sense of "body shame." We're encouraged to equate nakedness with evil and sin. Only a few of us are brought up in homes where nudity is considered acceptable, healthy and normal.
As a child, what were you taught about nudity?
I was raised in the country and you did not show skin at all if it wasn't your arms or face. You are right, nude was rude. Even not wearing undergarments was just nasty and shameful.
When younger, did you ever go skinny-dipping with family/friends?
That is something that I always wanted to do but never have. I still wanna do it. That would blow my mind with a group of naked people, all wet.
Aside from skinny-dipping, any other childhood/adolescent nudist experiences?
There was this dude that stayed about three houses down from me. I used to go over and we used to suck each others dick and jack off. I was not into eating ass then. I would tell him I am coming over through the back yard naked. I would leave out the back door of my house and run three houses down to his house naked with a pair of white socks on. I was 17 and he was 21.
By the time that many of us reach our teenage stage, the lessons about modesty versus nakedness are already ingrained in our minds. As adolescents, most are already suffering from "body anxiety" due to puberty, developmental/growth issues and a budding sexual awareness. This creates awkward tensions and stress during an especially difficult age. We are self-conscious, ashamed and extremely shy when it comes to nudity. At the same time, we are curious about sex and about the human body, regardless of gender.
During this emotionally confusing and difficult period of our lives, some of us participate in a few adolescent antics/pranks as a means of releasing this pent-up sexual energy. We also use these activities as a way of satisfying our natural curiosity and as a venue for teenage rebellion. As painful as this may be, I'd like to ask that you once again become a teenager, just for the purposes of this interview. LOL! Please, bear (bare) with me through this. This isn't an easy thing to do, so I am grateful for your cooperation and honesty.
Did you ever suffer any shyness about being naked in the locker room/showers when in high school?
In high school I got a failing grade because I would not dress out for my tennis class. I just could not take off my clothes in front of the other guys because they were all so well-toned.
Did you ever have any feelings of "penis envy" or other anxiety about being naked publicly with your peers?
I used to see other dudes in the locker room with 8-10 inches of dick and we were all the same age. I was a late bloomer so I did not have a nice size dick, hard or soft; nor did I have any pubic hairs. These other guys, they would just be hanging out wet and soapy in the showers. Then, when they dried off, their dicks would hang like elephant trunks, even the uncut boys.
As a teen/young adult, did you ever try "streaking" (running nude in a crowd of strangers) or "mooning" (exposing your ass in public)?
Never tried that. I would look when others did it but I did not have the equipment nor body for that type of action.
Now, we can return to the present. You're finally an adult again, my blogger brother! I appreciate your patience and understanding through this interview process. At this time, I just have a few more questions and then we'll be finished here, for the moment. Earlier in this discussion, you stated that you're currently a home nudist and you've publicly admitted in your blog, Pimusique, that you're taking this all to the next level and entertaining the idea of involving yourself in the gay social nudist community.
Do you at present have any friends who are same gender loving naturists/nudists?
No, I have no friends that would even think about being a nudist. There is this blogger in DC, a Black dude (author's note: Gay Nudist In DC) who's a nudist and he gave me some info about it. I am trying to get to one of the events to see if it's a good fit. I have voiced my desires to them and they read my blog also. When they read that post, they just laughed and said: "Yeah, right." Most Black males do not get their dick pierced (author's note: Thaddeus did; back early this year). Most Black males do not go around without any underwear. I am not like most Black males.
Any particular reason for trying social nudity now?
It's always been a desire and if I don't do it now...then when? The time is right here and right now.
Have you ever been in a relationship with a man who's a nudist?
No.
Have you ever just informally "hung out naked" with a few close friends?
No, I have no nudist friends that I know of or that will tell me the truth. But, after they read this, I might have a few new friends. Would you like to be my friend? LOL! Author's note: I agreed enthusiastically to be his friend and mentor.
You are aware that some associate gay male nudity as an excuse for sexual activity. Any thoughts about this?
I am not really interested in what people think or have to say about that. I am a grown man among other grown men. If sex happens, so be it. We are not teenagers and we are doing what society says we should not do. (Author's note: as teens).
Anything else that you'd care to add here? Concerns? Nervous? Excited?
Thaddeus, I'm grateful for your being candid about your feelings and thoughts here and being frank about any earlier experiences in your life. I know everyone reading this welcomes your honesty. I'm sure that a number will begin reading Pimusique so as to follow your journey into our queer culture of nakedness. I hope that we can do this again after you've participated in a few nude social functions in order to keep abreast of your nudist life. Thank you very much for your time, your cooperation and your generosity. Best wishes as you shed the clothes of bondage and step into the freedom of nudity!
Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!