Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Nude Novice Notes: The Gender Mix
For some who are relatively new to social nudity, this situation is the cause of discomfort and embarrassment. It doesn't need to be that way. The remedy is simple. All it takes is awareness, some forethought and mental preparation beforehand to reduce the level of anxiety and tension. Like most new experiences, some awkwardness may remain. However, this is only natural and doesn't need to be a major source of stress.
Arriving at a clothing-optional beach or at a public nudist event, many same gender loving naturists are shocked to discover that there are naked women present. This is particularly true when prior exposure (no pun intended) has been exclusively limited to the gay male environment. Then reality hits like a speeding locomotive as we view our surroundings.
For some, the basic reaction is to cover their genitalia with their hands. Where this may calm your fears for the moment, it isn't a viable solution. It isn't possible to cup your balls and cock in your hands all day and have fun. Plus, you are attracting unwanted attention to yourself.
I have witnessed this scenario many times. We have become so complacent in our queer naturist network that we just forget that the opposite gender also enjoys nudism. I know of several otherwise-nude brothers who actually refused to remove their shorts/swimsuits upon facing this situation. Once, an aquaintance was so horrorfied that he left the beach immediately.
We all have our individual comfort zone that is to be respected. Mixed gender nudity isn't necessarily pleasant for everyone. We make that determination for ourselves. However, with a little thinking and planning ahead, integrated social nudity doesn't have to create trauma and ruin our outing with friends. Initially, we might be nervous; but, like everything else, practice makes perfect. After a while, we may not even notice. Relax and be yourself. Breathe. Remember, most of us are naked here, right?
Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!